Nothing to do with oil or gas..just need to vent

A friend of mine died yesterday. She was only 42 years old. She did not have cancer or some other horrible disease. She was not in an accident. She was shot to death by the man who claimed to love her. She left him last Friday. He called her yesterday and asked her to come to his apartment. Unfortunately she went. He was waiting there with a shot gun. He shot her twice as she tried to escape then turned the gun on himself. He left behind 2 children to wonder why he would kill and commit suicide.
Thank God my friend had no children but her parents will grieve their last daughter. Her two sisters have both died of cancer. She was the sole survivor, missing the family legacy of cancer only to be gunned down by the man who claimed to love her.
I do not understand such senseless violence. I have never understood how someone can say they love you then say cruel things and beat you. I certainly can not begin to wrap my mind around the concept of pointing a shotgun at someone you love and pulling the trigger twice then turning the gun on yourself.
This man was selfish and cruel to the inth degree. Murder is the ultimate cruelty. He was a coward, choosing to turn the gun on her then himself rather than be a man and accept the end of the relationship. He was cruel not only to her but also to his own children who now live with the legacy that their father is a murder and did not love them enough to stick around on this earth. How do children cope with this. He obviously only cared about his own sick, twisted emotions.
My friend was a vibrant, lively woman. She was far from perfect but she was a human being and child of God. She did not deserve to die for wanting to leave a relationship that had turned into something painful. She did not deserve to die on her birthday. She did not deserve to die at the hands of someone who claimed to love her.
Please be gentle with those you love. Treat them with kindness, tenderness, mercy as you would want them to treat you. Love is not supposed to be about pain and fear. A friend of mine died yesterday, on her birthday, because she loved the wrong man.

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Comment by Dorcheated A1 on February 19, 2009 at 10:03
Kassi, words can't express the sorrow and sympathy that I feel for you, and your friends family. Please know that all of your GHS family is here if you need us. You and her family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Comment by Louzanne on February 19, 2009 at 9:01
Kassi....all has been said by the good people of this site. I simply add my "I am so sorry" to their words of comfort. As Two Dogs rightly stated, this person tragically didn't know the meaning of love. Love is longsuffering and kind. It never fails. May God bless you, and this family and give you comfort in this most difficult of times. Surely, our prayers are with you and them.
Comment by msfva on February 19, 2009 at 6:44
My heart goes out to you. I am very sorry.
Comment by Shelley on February 19, 2009 at 2:42
Kassi, I am truly sorry for what has happen to your friend and this mans children...... I will be praying for you all.. My heart goes out to ya'll.... Exspecialy these children... and the family of your friend. Please let us know if theres anything at all we can do for any of ya'll. Again i am truly sorry!!!!! Shelley
Comment by Snake Stewart on February 18, 2009 at 17:06
Sometimes we have to deal with things that shouldnt be ours to deal with. A tragedy such as this will continue to scar for years to come. As terrible as this is for you and her parents, his kids will need support , guildance and understanding. They have been dealt a cruel hand that wont easily be forgotten. You know that your friend is in a better place, by your words. The ones left behind have to pick all the pieces back up and hold things together. Stay strong by leaning on the One who can handle it. Our prayers are with all that are affected by this terrible happening.
Comment by Sarah on February 18, 2009 at 16:26
Kassi...I know I focused on the children effected and on that woman's story, because of the hope she had to offer hurting people in similar situations. It's all I could think of in this dark situation...a glimmer of hope. I did not mean to leave you out of the equation. I know you're in a surreal time and you just want the pain to go away. And would do anything to have your friend back. I wish I were there with you in person to give you a big hug and cry with you. Please know I care. Will keep you in my prayers sweet friend.
Comment by Bobi Carr ("parker") on February 18, 2009 at 15:33

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Things like this are incomprehensible. There is enough pain in this world. It is unimaginable that anyone would add to it with such senseless violence.
Comment by Two Dogs, Pirate on February 18, 2009 at 14:33
Kassi, there are many bad people in this world. They think only of themselves and the mark they may can make on you. Don't let this tragic event mark you in any sort of bad way because that is what he wanted to do. He wanted to hurt everyone close to her. Some friends or family members may have told her that he was a bad person. He tried to do harm to them more than he tried to do harm to her, she was just the way to mark the others in his sick twisted way. He wanted to do harm to the ones that he thought took her away from him. Love didn't exist in this person, for the mother of his children, his children, his mother and father or his siblings if he had any or for your friend. I pray that you will come out of this unmarked.
Comment by Sarah on February 18, 2009 at 14:28
Oh Kassi, I can't even put words together to comment. I'm just so very sorry for you and all those he left behind. My heart aches especially for his children. It's just too much for little one's to have to bear...for the rest of their lives! My hope lies in Jesus Christ. He promises a place where sorrow and suffering will flee away and there will be no more tears. I pray if they don't know Him now, they do very soon.
There is a woman whose testimony I heard a long time ago. I've tried to find her on the web. All I know is that she lives in Oregon, (I believe) and has a horse therapy farm for hurting kids. She has to live with the same situation,...only it was her mother that her father killed. Yes, the lump in my throat is now the size of a baseball, the more I type. It's so sad.

I wonder if I can get a hold of this lady and get her to minister to these kids? She has the horse farm now because what helped her, after the tragedy, and she went to go live with her grandmother/grandparents?, was that they had the sense to get her a horse. Every day after school, she couldn't fun fast enough to pull on her jeans and run out to her horse. She didn't have to talk with the horse but it was her friend that she could cry as much as she needed too. And it helped her heal. Will try to find her.

You're in my prayers Kassi. And Skip...thanks for letting us know.
Comment by Cathaus on February 18, 2009 at 14:13
I don't profess to have the answers to why this happened. I had a very close friend that committed suicide. He had no idea that he was killing his family and friends along with himself. All of us died a little that day. I grieve for you Kassi, for the parents of your friend and for the children that are left to deal with the stigma of what their sire did. I don't know much but I do know that love isn't supposed to hurt and to often it does. Please accept my deepest sympathy. I cry with you and for you.

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